![]() So, we need to let that reveal itself to know more about ourselves. Neurologists say about 90% of what we do comes from a subconscious motivation, understanding, and templates of what we expect to happen. Jim: A lot is going on below the waterline of consciousness. ![]() So, how can we know when we’re missing something about ourselves? We aren't creatures that typically think about why we do what we do. By telling your story, you find out where you're overdoing things. We can only find the answer by exploring our stories. And when they don’t, they try to figure out why they’re not doing well. People are trying to do well, and they don’t always achieve that goal. Through insightful questions, I get a picture of why we do what we do. I dig deep into events of their childhood, traumatic or otherwise. I ask about the emotional climate between their parents, and how they learned to talk about emotions. The first thing I do is ask someone to slow down and tell me their story, as far back as they can remember. I get to find out what those compulsions are through a person's story. As a result, we overwork ourselves to be in service of that identity and our worth. Compulsions are typically defenses to protect us from some wound or to find identity in something. Jim: We typically get burned out because we're acting out of compulsion more than a calling. ![]() What's your first go-to thing when someone comes into your office with burnout symptoms? In this edited interview, Jim tells us about the importance of telling your story. Through CrossPoint Ministry, they give people a safe place to share their stories. They offer pastoral care that is psychologically sensitive, historically informed, biblically based, and relationally focused. Jim Cofield and his wife are firm believers in the healing power of confession.
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